Some women are from Mars and some Men are from Venus.

Relationships is one of those topics that anyone could write a book on. We have all had experiences in relationships. But, why are we forcing ourselves to be in bad relationships when it is projected that over 50% of marriages end in divorce? I see so many unhappy relationships and I just wonder where the animosity that builds up in a relationship would potentially stem from. There are the obvious physical differences that do tend to cause skiffs within relationships. Women have a menstrual cycle that men love to blame for their significant other’s strange behavior, but in all honestly men have times in which our moods change also. That doesn’t necessarily have that much to do with the true physical differences because most of the true differences occur in the psyche of a person.

The behavior of the two different sexes has been a popular form of entertainment and has given the anti-Christ, I mean Dr. Phil, a wonderful job telling people what they think they want to hear. Besides Oprah’s bosom buddy, many authors have utilized this problem between the sexes to get their interpretations across. But I have a question: If women are from Venus and men are from Mars, what happens to those of us who live on the East side of Mars and the women who reside on the East side of Venus? Not all of us behave the same, but one-fact still remains the same is that we are human. The authors, of books about the Venus and Mars epidemic, stereotype people and do not look at each person as an individual. These authors grossly simplify and stereotype the real problems that we are having by masking these books with interesting and useful ideas for your relationship. Besides the obvious female to male differences, we as people have behavioral patterns. All of these self-help books, talk show hosts and know-it-alls who have the answers are useful if they would just try to help us appreciate the uniqueness of each other as an individual.
The emotional aspect to relationships has long been indicated as the undisputed fight starter. I used to hear my girlfriend and many other friends (who are girls) rant, rave and straight out bitch that we men never talk about our feelings. This has got to stop. We men do talk about our feelings, yet our phrasing may not be in the exact context in which you would like. And men always say that they find it so difficult to figure out what women want. Even the famous psychologist Sigmund Fraud asked, “What does a woman want?” And women women respond that they do tell us what they want, but men are listening to the wrong parts of the text.

As a man, I urge women to understand that most men don’t like to elaborate on our feelings. We are straight-to-the-punch, ‘just-the-facts’, and ‘no-filler’ types of guys. Most of our conversations are carried out with these terms in mind. But most women enjoy the process of talking. They are more concerned with the intricacies or the inner-workings of our minds, trying to understand what we’ve already told you. We tell you everything that you need to know about our day, how we are feeling, and how everyone is getting along just by saying ‘it wasokay’. I’m not stereotyping men and saying that we don’t have feelings, nor am I saying that sometimes we don’t like to elaborate about specific subjects, but a large majority of the time we like to keep it simple. Women want to emphasize specific understanding and men just yearn for simplicity.

Relationships are complicated, but I think that all in all we deserve to give them a chance. We might have to do a little bit of work in regards to understanding the way that our specific love interest thinks and acts but they are possible. Each of us, as human beings, are different. Though behavior and emotional differences may occur, to make this co-existance between men and women work we must delve deeper into the hearts and minds of one another. We must try to forget about the bullshit representations that Dr. Phil presents on TV and completely disregard whatever stereotypipcal man that you think lives on Mars.